The best way to fix excuses
What are excuses any way? Excuses are just stories we keep telling ourselves when doubts and fears get in the way of us realizing our goals and dreams. It’s our Ego’s way of keeping us safe. Stretching beyond what we know or trying something new involves risk and uncertainty. We ride a wave of feeling empowered only to be sometimes [...]
IMPORTANT: Learn as if you were going to live forever
"Learn as if you were going to live forever. Live as if you were going to die tomorrow.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi. These few words profoundly changed my life... 15 years ago I was teaching and coaching leadership development for a global organization in Beirut, Lebanon. I wanted to share my story with you today... The first time I came [...]
Are you ready to believe in yourself?
Have you ever noticed that sometimes the last person to believe in you is… YOURSELF? Everyone else can clearly see your potential - BUT you just can’t see it yourself! Instead self-doubt holds you back and you cling to old limiting beliefs. You’re waiting for confidence and certainty to show up before you can take a step forward. It doesn’t work [...]
Facing New Challenges? – 5 Powerful lessons from an ‘Alien’!
Facing New Challenges... A PERSONAL STORY... In 2013, I made the decision to uproot from the country of my Birth (England) and move to the USA. I left behind the familiarity of my homeland where I’d lived and worked all my life. I sold my house, my car and gave away everything except for the essentials that could fit into four [...]
5 sneaky ways to quiet your inner critic…
We all have an inner critic that can beat us up when we least expect it. I’m sure you are familiar with THAT voice in your head… (or perhaps there are many voices!). The reality is that our minds are ALWAYS chattering! If you know the Enneagram Personality Types, you’ll be aware that two Enneagram types have powerful inner critics [...]
Why criticism feels so painful…
The truth is that criticism is a natural part of life. At some point someone is bound to criticise you because you’re stepping out and trying something new. As we grow, the people around us struggle to make sense of how and why we are changing. They unconsciously worry about the impact of this change on them. Criticism is different from [...]
Rejection is a painful emotion – 5 ways to grow through it
If you look back at your own life I’m sure you can recall times when you’ve experienced rejection in some way: you missed out on a promotion, you didn’t get the project you’d sent a proposal in for, you didn’t get your dream job, a client dropped you, or you were unceremoniously dumped by your latest boyfriend/girlfriend! In moments like these [...]
This will stop you achieving coaching mastery
As a professional coach-mentor, I often get asked about coaching mastery. The usual questions are: When will I achieve coaching mastery, and what does that even mean? Last week I had a conversation with Sarah, one of my coach-clients... “Every time that I think I’ve reached coaching mastery, a client pushes me up against a new edge, and I can’t [...]
Discover the Difference Between Committed and Interested…
There is a huge difference between being interested in doing something, in contrast to being committed to doing it. Here's an example... Let’s imagine that you have decided to improve your fitness level. So you set an intention to go to the gym twice a week. Things start off well and you get to the gym two times a week [...]
Thinking of Quitting? Stop and Do This First…
We all have moments when we feel like quitting. I'm sure that at times, you have felt like giving up, and maybe running away to start a new life, business or career when something feels too hard, overwhelming or challenging. There have certainly been moments when I’ve felt like giving up. When this happens I imagine myself getting a job [...]
How to Reveal the Next Positive Version of Yourself
2020 has been significant for all of us. It has been a deeply revealing year for me. It's called me to go look inwards and explore the layers of who I was and what I was tolerating to reveal the next version of myself. The Pandemic has forced us to make decisions we would not have otherwise made, and called us [...]
The Best Way to Handle Fear of The Unknown
Fear is an extremely powerful emotion. There are times in all of our lives when we don’t know what’s coming. We enter into a psychological un-chartered territory of ‘unknown’. This is where many of us are right now, not only individually but also for the first time on a global scale. Most of us are feeling some level of anxiety [...]
Why Do I Keep Doing This?
Anyone who wants to make a positive change in their life has to begin by growing into the space between stimulus and response. This is one of the key principles that I’ve taught and coached many times during my professional career. It’s difficult to shed old unconscious automatic habits and replace them with positive change. Especially if they are deeply ingrained. [...]
Healing Happens by Feeling…
Emotions are meant to be felt and not stuffed down and buried. If you bury them then you're packing down and compounding the pain... At some point, your body will decide that the overstuffed box is full! When it can't hold these emotions any longer they will be released in the form of burnout, anxiety, depression, or even physical pain and [...]
5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Lizard
“Deep within your brain lies the amygdala, the lizard brain. It sets out to sabotage anything that feels threatening, risky or generous. Until you name, recognise, and deal with the resistance, you will stay frustrated.” Seth Godin, Author. Meet George… Don’t be fooled by his cute looks because George is an evil little bugger and has very sharp teeth. George [...]
Are you trying to race or pace your way to success?
Life-lessons happen when you least expect it. …Even when you’re on holiday! I was blessed to spend a whole week hiking in Grindelwald, Switzerland. My chalet over-looked a stunning valley that led your eye directly up to the north face of the Eiger. Bernard, our mountain hiking guru, knew a lot about this mountain. He’s is a very experienced hiker in [...]
Daring to Change? Here’s How to Make the Leap…
“Make decisions from where you want to be. Not where you are now.” - Christine Kane, Mentor to women who are changing the world. I remember so clearly the day I handed my notice in to leave my corporate job and begin life as an entrepreneur… Even though I knew this was what I wanted, I was really scared to [...]